Does anyone have experience of relocating out of a city to recover? I'm
faced with yet another noisy Bristol flat and have to move again, so am
thinking maybe I should move nearer my parents in Dorset while I'm at it.
But there's less chance of a social life there/interesting voluntary work
for when I'm able. My social life has seriously dwindled since leaving work
about 18 months ago, and I find I'm actually relishing my old folks' company
because they're people who know me! But I do realise it's probably best not
to hang out with them too much and need to mix and mingle with new people
too. Can anyone share their experience of doing something similar (moving
to the country) and managing to keep the social side active?
Many thanks
Johanna
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Thursday, October 4
Sunday, March 11
Rebuidling Social Life + Confidence
by
AMG
on Sun 11 Mar 2007 20:45 GMT
Hi,
I've made massive strides in my recovery since doing the Lightning Process last October and have gone from fairly housebound to being able to walk 2 miles without fatigue and from not being able to drive to being able to drive for 20-30 minutes at a time. All this has really opened up many things including my current nightclasses, voluntary and part time paid work but so far hasn't really changed things much socially for me. I'm 31 and many of my local friends are very busy with work and children plus I don't anymore feel I connect so well (apart from giving advice) to those still very ill with ME. I'm also wanting more than online friends and to get more confidence interacting directly with people. My classes and work do give me some practice but only with people very much older or with my one on one tutoring work very much younger! I also find a lot of my interests are solitary ones (lost all the others due to ME) so in a way I'm also wanting to explore interests some more and meet others my age. Problem is I've hunted round but not really found anything social that fits the bill as most are many societies that mainly have talks (so not too social), involve mostly over 50s or demand more confidence than I currently have (i.e. amateur dramatics). So I'm wondering if anyone else is finding the rebuilding challenging and how you either tackled or intend to tackle the challenge? How do you rebuild a social life from scratch? I guess some of us are like a person who is new to an area and it intrigues me how those people build their social lives. I'm thinking I either just try every society locally under the sun and see what works or I look for work in a busier place like a supemarket, shop or pub etc. Love to hear comments from anyone in similar situation and if anyone wants to say hello by email I'm sure Anne-Marie will pass on my address. Jon Tuesday, October 3
Fw: Query for Wellies Noticeboard - on becoming a loner
by
AMG
on Tue 03 Oct 2006 21:32 BST
My query is not a practical, but a more emotional one. I returned to work in January (part-time) after 3 years of being ill and spending most of this time at home alone.
I am so pleased to be feeling better on the whole, but have found that I have become far less sociable than I was before I became ill. I know this is probably as a result of spending so much time on my own, but worry that the desire to be around people more is not coming back. I feel like I have gone from being an extrovert to a bit of a loner! Do any other members feel this way and have they found ways of dealing with this? Many thanks and best wishes to all.
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